Friday, October 21, 2011

yesterday

#30 shell lace block

Yesterday I sat in the garden, hook in hand and stitched. It was one of those one child moments that are rather uncommon in these parts. The babe slept and I hooked. I thought a lot too. I thought about how much I needed to have some quiet time, to rest. How my body was screaming at me to slow down for a bit. Intellectually I know that the best way to care for my family is through taking good care of myself (a lesson that was learnt the hard way I might add). That means having rests. I know this. And yet I still don’t necessarily feel it. Rather guilt dominates my emotions and spoils the pleasure of just sitting in the garden relishing a quiet moment hooking away. The mental list of all the chores and tasks that I could be doing creeps into my thoughts and frankly it is hard work to keep them at bay.

Do you experience “me time” guilt? What do you do to keep the guilt thoughts at bay?

13 comments:

  1. oh I love your hooky. You didn't tell us about it!
    Yes guilt all round here, thinking about what I should be doing. I'm glad I keep avoiding some of the should be jobs a bit like I do. Just a little me time is keeping me sane right now - & only a little. Good luck. We shouldn't feel guilty!

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  2. Oh yes sireee I do!

    Pickle Sticks blog has a thing about mothers guilt today as well.

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  3. Yes, I think it's because the results are not instantaneous like getting the housework done, so I just try to relax and trust that I'm doing everyone a favour by looking after me too.:)Sam

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  4. I think every parent feels guilty when they take time for them. But I do it more now than ever before with regard to taking time to exercise and I know that feeling well/healthy/well rested/strong makes me a happier and better parent.
    However, I find that rather than sew, I do things that I was not planning to do at all that day, and which perhaps don't need to take priority because I feel that taking time out to sew would be selfish - even though I am rarely sewing anything for me - silly isn't it...

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  5. It was such a lovely day to sit outside yesterday.

    At the moment I am lucky because I get a bit of "me" time on most Wednesdays. I tend to sew or potter about the house. Sometimes I read or watch trashy tv. I don't feel too guilty, but mummy guilt is hard to ignore. I do need "my" time though. It makes me a happier and more balanced person.

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  6. Happy mama - Happy EVERYONE! I think you are well on your way to being at ease with this by allowing yourself to sit and do something you enjoy.... And if these moments are rare - well, those chore 'n task thoughts need to be kept at bay at least for the very small amount of time you have to sit with your creativity... Tell them to hang back for a moment - you'll be with them shortly but that there's just no rush.... Lovely work by the way!

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  7. I so rarely have me time, that I don't experience any guilt when I do :). Enjoy your time to yourself, and your stitches are lovely!

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  8. yep totally get it. A there is very little opportunity for me time in this house too but I have been trying to remind myself that if I was in paid employment then I would get a lunch break and a morning and afternoon break. Plus when hubby gets home from work he doesn't drop everything and takeover he goes and does his own thing for a little while so I have every right to do the same thing, just at different time (and waaay less frequent) time of the day.

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  9. Look forward to seeing more of this one soon.
    Time with hook should never have to be justified - you create some beautiful and very practical items.
    Enjoy

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  10. Hello Sally,

    The day our first child started pres=school I decided to take time to have a cuppa each day. It was my down time. Keep on crocheting,just close those doors on untidy rooms, they completly disappear that way.

    Have a lovely Sunday together.
    Bev.xoxo

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  11. I'm right there with you at the moment. My mind is racing at a bazillion miles an hour with the things I 'should' be doing and the things I want to be doing but mostly the things I'm doing involve my sweet new baby. The rare moments she sleeps out of the sling I spend running between chores like a crazy housework demon...it's madness. This time is so short and will vanish in the blink of an eye. My body is aching and I feel a sore throat coming on.....I'll rest if you will :)

    Sam

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  12. Sigh..... yep me too!!! I drive myself a bit crazy thinking about all the things I should be doing when I'm taking a little bit of (very rare) me time! Then drive myself crazy by wondering when I just can't relax and enjoy it... Can't win...arghhhh!!! :)

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  13. I know what you mean but after getting sick a few times I have learnt to make time for me. It is a lot easier now both boys are at school but I still find me time tends to be late at night when everyone else in the house is asleep. I think when the boys were little and I was doing day care Rest Time was everyones rest time and I made sure I ate some lunch then to. It is very tempting to rush round 'doing' but you won't be doing anything if you push to hard and collapse....keeping the balance is an art I think and not feeling guilty is too. You are doing great! :-)

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